You don’t have to stroke their ego. You don’t have to indulge their insincere pleasantries and you don’t have to engage them in meaningless conversation. You don’t have to fill empty space with empty words. You don’t have to listen to verbal vomit or make nice with people who are not. You don’t have to like everyone to feel likeable. You don’t have to.
How many times have we tried and tried to be friends with someone who, for some reason or another, it never was easy to be friends with? You think that maybe if you look at the friendship a different way, or approach the person a different way, or maybe if you did more, or gave more, or if you two just lived closer THEN the friendship would work better. We just can’t seem to figure out why things with this person just don’t flow easily. Well… It’s because they are a square peg and you are a round hole. The two of you together just don’t fit.
Two amazing people may not fit together.
One amazing person and one horribly toxic person may not fit together.
Two equally toxic people may not fit together.
Some people just don’t fit together. Period. This goes for friendships and romantic relationships.
There is an emotional trend amongst some circles that say that if you cannot vibe with everyone you meet, that it’s because you are not one with humanity, or you are too picky, or you don’t have enough love in your heart, or you’re stuck up, or it must be because you’re broken. That’s just… Well that’s just a load of crap to me. It’s like saying you couldn’t possibly be a nice person if you aren’t friends with every nice person you know, or that you couldn’t possibly have a sense of humor if you don’t aim to make everyone you meet laugh.
Be sincere by complimenting when you truly mean it… Not out of a need to be known as complimentary or because you need people to always feel good around you. You are not responsible for their mood or ego. They are.
Speak when you have something you really want to say, not to fill empty space with empty words. A silent smile carries more value than the white noise of meaningless conversation. You don’t have to be anyone’s entertainment and silence is not something to be afraid of.
Love where there is love to build on. There can not be true love without respect, so stop trying to love those who you don’t respect. If there is no respect, then there is no trust… And to try to love without respect and trust is only lying to yourself. So respect yourself enough not to act out a love that is a lie.
You are funny, nice, caring, creative, passionate, loving and giving. That is who You are… So you don’t have to like them to love You.